Saturday, May 8, 2010

Prince Charming where are you???

I grew up being a normal girl, you know the one that dreams with the perfect guy and perfect life … I still don’t get it, I was born innocently until I was submit and introduced to fairy tales, novels and here in my country “Soap Operas”; So I was a Little girl who was bombarded with all those cheesy stories about “perfect love”.  These cheesy stories have always the same plot, the poor girl (sometimes she can be sick, blind, on a wheelchair, deaf …) but no matter how miserable you think she is it’s not true, she’s happy and independent, contrary of what you may think due to her condition;  anyway, this “poor little girl” meets a wealthy, young, really hot, man and they fall in love against everybody’s wishes (family, friends, people from the place they live) and of course there’s the “evil woman” (usually an aunt that wants the money or an exgirlfriend that also wants the fortune, or sometime both) that always try to tear them apart, and sometimes she succeeds but they will get back together at the end … also it is revealed that the poor girl is the real heiress of the fortune and that the hot, young, man was adopted because the girl was born ill or just because her father wanted a boy (yeah, no ultrasounds to cheek on the baby’s sex!).  Anyway, at the end, after we suffer so much with all the things the girl and the hot man have been put through, she’s no longer sick and they get married … that’s always the ending: the big beautiful wedding.
Pretty much the same of all the stories, princesses and maids get married to the fantastic prince defeating the hag, witch, evil queen that doesn’t want them to be together… Again you must be thinking, so what?  What’s the point of all that ramble?  Well, I think we, women, have been brainwashed with all those stories to make us “live and dream to find love” and of course give us a twisted version of what love means (totally opposite to what men think).  So for us woman, we dig and search for the one true love, from a very young age we have awful crush and always dream about being Mrs. XXXXX (the name of the boy or artist we fancy at that time) and we feel like the world is ending the moment we face rejection, breakups, artist getting married (sometimes it gets really bad and can transform a normal girl into an obsessed one that can commit any kind of stuff) but fortunately most of the time we patch up our heart together cause we always have hopes that the real true love will come and that our prince charming will arrive riding a beautiful horse (or motorcycle, car.. whatever, the point is to have a vehicle).
Those stories don’t teach us how to deal with true life, cause prince charming? He left the planet years ago and we’re stuck with normal men!  They can be good sometimes, they can be bad but they’re normal, plain guys; nothing special, they fancy sports, hate shopping, think that most of the things we like them to do will make them look gay, like action movies (even though they secretly love romance ones), look at the girl that have nice boobs (legs, hair…) without implying that they don’t love us, burp, fart, scratch their balls (I hate that habit!), have trashy mouth and drool over a beer, put work above our needs and don’t understand our feelings at all!.  Yes, you can find a man with all that or with some of that but you won’t find one that doesn’t have any of all the things I mentioned … and we will always be annoyed at things they do because in our minds we’re still wanting that prince that will take us to his castle and treats us like queens (meaning, no cleaning, cooking, ironing, doing dishes … no house chores!)
No matter how independent you are, successful woman, perfect mom, poor, rich, young, old, married, divorced, single ... we all want our prince charming (or in cases our hot mojo!), the one that will melt us with a kiss that will make us feel we’re dancing in the clouds.  So I’m tired of waiting for my prince charming to come and I am pretty sure that I will have to settle down for a plain normal guy dreaming about changing him into my dreamy one and you know what … I blame Disney for that!!!!


  1. *claps* Well said, Ana! You'd think that by reaching the age of almost 34, and being with my partner for almost 17 years, I would have given up on dreaming of my PC, but there's always a small part of me that continues to hope. We should ALL face reality and realise that Prince Charming will just not happen, because while we continue to dream and hope, we risk everlasting disappointment. After all, women aren't all Cinderellas either, right?

  2. Nicely said, Ana, heh, if slightly discouraging. I feel like you have to blame even JK for this kind of stuff, all those characters got fairytale endings, too (even the ones that died weren't so bad off). Culturally, we need to rethink some things.

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  3. Oh, very nice, Ana! It's so true! I am pretty darned sure global warming has killed most of the princes by destroying their habitat in the Amazon Rain Forest. There are some TOADS by my house, but not a one of them has turned.

    HEY! You know what I bet happened The evil witch promised they could be pretty colors if they dived in the potion, and now they are all poison dart frogs!

    It is honestly one of the reasons I can't read romance. It annoys the hell out of me to see beautiful, oblivious people who 'wake each other up to love' (GOODGAWD!)

    What women should look for is the guy who makes her feel like the best HER. I didn't quite succeed, but at least I found one who never made me pretend to be something I wasn't, so that's something.